Yeah, it does suck. I'd love to get to go to one of those meetings, cause I've wanted to meet the people there for... since I met Kim. Oh, yeah, that sounds pretty boring. But hey, so long as you got some music, everything's aight. That's my main form of entertainment. Right now, I'm listening to "Pimpin'" by Hollywood Undead, suprisingly. I hardly ever listen to anything even closely related to rap, but they've got some BA rock and metal, so I just let it go through my MySpace playlist. Speaking of which, do you have a myspace?
But as far as coping skills go, I've got a lot of those. I've mostly developed them myself. Like, I hate having a song I don't like stuck in my head, because I have this weird paranoid delusion that people can read my mind (not so much anymore), and it's embarassing (still). So I've noticed that usually the last song I've listened to is usually the one I have in my head, unless I listened to another song more before it. I'm not so sure that's related directly to autism, but I'm sure that the delusion could be. So Whenever I have a problem that I haven't yet learned to cope with, I basically do a science experiment with it, and my conclusion is the coping skill. I'm not exactly sure that would work for you, but you might be able to try something self-propelled. A non-autistic to talk to is also usually a very good way of learning to cope with things, if you can manage to convert what they tell you about NTs into a coping skill.
As for the compassion, not only is it a trait that humans carry, any real human, but it's also a trait that friends carry, and offer to others without need of recompense. In other words, no thanks required